Why is it so hard for me to let go of control?

Here is one thing you’ve got in all probability already guessed about me if you happen to’ve been studying my weblog for some time. I am a management freak. 😀 I am not a group participant. It is not straightforward for me to belief folks to do issues for me. I have been like this my complete life. My mother informed me that one of many first full sentences I realized to say as a child was, “I do it myself!” So I’ve all the time been fiercely impartial.

As I’ve labored on this home for the final almost ten years, there have been issues I clearly needed to hire as a result of there was no approach I may do it myself. I employed the structural work once we transformed the storage into my studio. I imply, there isn’t any approach I may have turned that…

…on this on their lonesome.

However I am certain these guys would say I used to be all the time round, all the time hovering, all the time ensuring issues had been going in response to plan. And issues definitely no depart with out issues. There have been some fairly vital frustrations with that contractor – miscommunications that would have simply been prevented and by no means ought to have occurred – which solely added to my resolve by no means to rent work until completely needed as a result of I can not belief folks to do the work. issues accurately. (I shared extra particulars about that right here.)

After which there was the storage. No approach may I’ve constructed this alone. It required pouring concrete, including big and really heavy structural beams, and so forth. This was a job greatest accomplished by a number of males. (I actually need to get present pictures of the storage!)

And I rented all the elemental work (flooring, drywall, electrical, uncooked plumbing, framing) within the visitor bed room, house fitness center, hallway, and grasp tub.

I additionally rented new HardiPlank siding put in, painted the outside of the home, poured the brand new entrance driveway, and I am certain I am forgetting a number of minor issues.

So if it is one thing I do know I am not bodily able to doing, or one thing that requires a number of folks, or one thing I’ve sworn by no means to do once more in my life (like putting in, gluing, and taping drywall), I am going to rent him out. I’ll begrudgingly do that after which I’ll hover and ask numerous questions whereas the work is being accomplished, however I’ll rent you.

However I’ve all the time had such a tough time letting myself rent work that I do know I can do myself. And it is not likely a matter of not eager to spend the cash. It is only a matter of me being extraordinarily impartial and never counting on different folks to do the job to my requirements. I by no means let anybody else do any inside trim work on our home as a result of I do not belief anybody else to try this.

The issue is, my robust independence and management freak tendencies aren’t simply directed in direction of my DIY tasks and earn a living from home. However I additionally discover it actually exhausting to relinquish management of issues that different folks can in all probability do loads higher than I can, like cleansing my home. And as you realize, this received me in bother final week.

Whereas I used to be sick in mattress all week, watching helplessly as my home turned an increasing number of of a whole catastrophe space with every passing day, it by no means occurred to me to rent somebody to assist me. That thought by no means crossed my thoughts.. That is not how my mind works.

There was truly a time in 2016 and 2017 after I employed somebody to wash our home, however that type of fizzled out and I by no means considered hiring anybody else. For not less than six months, Matt has been urging me to rent somebody to return in not less than as soon as each two weeks, if not each week, to wash the home so I can deal with different issues, however I’ve simply been dragging my toes. in that. It is so exhausting for me to surrender management over the issues I do know I can do alone. Why am I like this?!?!

Proper now there are three issues that we often hire. The primary is mowing the garden, and I by no means thought twice about handing it over to another person. We’ve an acre of land and I’ve completely no want to chop it myself. We additionally contract out our pest management and HVAC upkeep, which occur quarterly. These are the one issues we hire now.

I go searching my home and see so many little tasks I may and will tackle. The pretend stone on the porch skirting. Why am I made up my mind to do that alone? A handyman may do that in a day. Reinstalling the shutter that fell out throughout excessive winds throughout a storm. It has been sitting there for a few yr now as I inform myself I am going to get it out ASAP. Why am I so decided to do that alone? I may provide you with a protracted record of tasks like this that I may simply tackle and but I’ve a very exhausting time delivering them. Why???

Anyway, all that to say…

Hey. My identify is Kristi and I am a management freak.

However I actually wish to enhance and be taught to belief different folks to do issues for me. I am going to power myself to make some telephone calls as we speak.

What home-related issues do you might have exterior assist for? Do you might have a handyman on pace dial? Do you hire the upkeep of your garden? Do you might have somebody cleansing your own home? I am simply curious. Some other management freaks like me on the market?

Addicted 2 Adorning is the place I share my DIY and adorning journey as I transform and enhance the 1948 Fixer Higher that my husband, Matt, and I bought in 2013. Matt has a number of sclerosis and is unable to do bodily labor, so I do many of the work work from home alone. You will discover out extra about me right here.

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